“I am not capable of changing my life”: how to work with this limiting belief

“I am not capable of changing my life (or a situation in my life)” is a very deep limiting belief.
When we feel helpless, or we feel stuck, and sometimes it seems like it will last forever, we also loose any motivation to act and to get out of it.

So where to begin to actually start believing that you can do it?
Let’s break this down. It’s not an easy thing.

First, this limiting belief is not originally yours. Someone disempowered you and convinced you that you are incapable! Probably this someone was your parent, your teacher etc We are born as pure blank piece of paper and then we absorb all the things around us from the family, environment, society like a sponge. So if your parents live with the belief that there is nothing they can do about life, you will most definitely have the same belief. Another way to disempower a person is to overprotect him in the childhood.

How to start empowering yourself?
We should reprogram our mind.
The first basic thing is to start writing by hand a sentence that will be empowering and the opposite to ” I am not capable”. Here are some examples: I am capable of changing my life, I am more than capable, I am unstoppable, I can do it etc. It should be something that is very unique for you.

Second, ask yourself: “Are you 100 % sure that you are not capable to change your life? Is it really true?” and meditate on this question, maybe write in your journal. What is the first answer that comes to mind? Maybe you hide from the responsibility, maybe you are afraid, and this is normal. Try to investigate here.

Then to support this new statement, this new reality, I suggest you to start taking actions. But not massive big steps yet, but baby steps. I offer you to create a new little thing that you can start doing every day with the intention and affirmation – Here I am – changing my life for the better.
What that little thing can be?

-Do your bed
-Go to the gym
-Drink one glass of water every morning before you eat
-10 minutes walk or run etc
Again this should be your unique thing. Find what it is and do it religiously till the moment you feel that energy when you can do more. Then starting to do more. Maybe having that hard conversation with your partner, maybe finally having enough courage to start your own business, or seriously going to the gym.

And the last, collect your successes! Collect the prove that you can change your life. Find a journal and daily write 3 things that you managed to do. Be generous with yourself!

And my last question for you will be : when you entertain this thought, this belief “I am not capable of changing my life”, what are you gaining? Hint: nothing great, but probably your comfort living with all the material possessions that do not make you truly happy, your circle of friends that probably bring you down, approval of your family which for you feels like suffocation because deep down you know it’s not true love.

If you want to learn more about how limiting beliefs are formed, and the most important – how two liberate yourself from them, join my online course where I offer practical tools to help you to work with them, because – that’s right – you can do it!